Saturday, October 16, 2010

What to Expect in a Relationship With Thai Girls

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Thai women for the most part are extremely different than Western girls because they are taught from early on that it is their job to take care of their husbands. For this reason they find it normal and even joyous to cook and take care of almost all of the household chores. Due to this fact, Thai girls leave no question in your mind that they sincerely care and make a point in showing it every day by all of the small tasks that they take care of in the home.

On the flip side, one thing you will notice that is different and perhaps not always acceptable depending on how you feel about in-laws, is that families are very close-knit in Thailand, so it is expected that you will be around the Thai girl's family on a very regular basis.

In particular her parents are extremely important and you will be expected to help her care for them as they grow old since Thai Buddhism teaches children since birth that they need to honour their parents by taking care of them in old age. This means that you will be expected to either invite them to move into your home or pay for their needs if they do not have a great deal of money.

Thai women also are in love with the idea of romance and "true love", and will expect to find romantic surprises woven into their time with you. For those that are not very romantic or have no idea of what your girlfriend or wife may want, there are plenty of websites that offer some insight into how to meet Thai girls' expectations of romance and some great gift ideas.

Saturday, October 9, 2010

How to Solve Conflicts in Relationship

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Conflict is not in and of itself a bad thing. In fact, conflicts in relationships can be constructive when used as a vehicle for improving communication. The following four steps can help you use conflict as a tool for gaining clarity, creating deeper understanding and strengthening relationships.

When you are in the midst of conflict, take the LEAD to manage it respectfully and calmly.

Listen to what is being said. Many times, conflict arises from a simple lack of understanding or miscommunication. Avoid making assumptions about what you hear. Instead, ask for clarification. For example, “I heard you say X, is that what you meant?”

Explorethe feelings that come up – Sometimes conflict escalates because something about the situation is an emotional trigger for us. If you’re feeling upset by the conversation, try to determine where the feeling is coming from. Take several deep breaths and try to remember that what is happening now is completely separate from the past. You can manage conflict more effectively if you deal only with the matter at hand. When you start introducing memories and past sleights it will be tough to get past the history of bad feelings to work toward a positive outcome.

Affirm theother person’s point of view. You don’t have to agree to understand the other point of view. Simply acknowledging and validating someone’s feelings can be a powerful tool for resolving conflict positively. At the end of the day, most people just want to be heard.

Decide on a fair course of action. Now that you have a clear idea of what the problem is and where the person is coming from, it is time to explore some solutions. Throw out some ideas that you can vet together. Choose the soundest option that you can agree on. Plan to revisit your decision within a specified period of time to see how you are doing and what changes, if any, need to be made.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Total Honesty in Relationships

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Total honesty with self

Are you honest with your needs and wants? Are you aware of what you truly want or need in this moment?

Is this what you want or is it based on the notion of not wanting to upset others through stating your real preference? Often we change our needs to fit in with others for fear of difficulties or non-acceptance.

Total honesty with self is first of all learning to listen to your own truth, your needs and wants, your likes and dislikes. With that comes the differentiation of what is truly yours and that which is based on the assessment of what others might need you to say or do, based on your perception on interpretation.

Total honesty with self includes self-acceptance. Acceptance of fears, anxieties, desires, avoidances, unresolved issues, past hurt and disappointments. This results from self-awareness and ruthless self-inquiry.

Total honesty with your partner

Once you are aware of yourself, as described above, in being totally honest with your partner you need to share those feelings, emotions, needs, wants, likes and dislikes, unresolved issues, past hurt and disappointments with your partner. The reason why we are not always totally honest with our selves and with our partner is because we fear the consequences: emotional pain, disapproval, disagreement, conflict or abandonment. Even though these fear are valid and significant, the journey to processing and releasing any unpleasant emotions or situation starts by acknowledging them first.

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