Total honesty with self
Are you honest with your needs and wants? Are you aware of what you truly want or need in this moment?
Is this what you want or is it based on the notion of not wanting to upset others through stating your real preference? Often we change our needs to fit in with others for fear of difficulties or non-acceptance.
Total honesty with self is first of all learning to listen to your own truth, your needs and wants, your likes and dislikes. With that comes the differentiation of what is truly yours and that which is based on the assessment of what others might need you to say or do, based on your perception on interpretation.
Total honesty with self includes self-acceptance. Acceptance of fears, anxieties, desires, avoidances, unresolved issues, past hurt and disappointments. This results from self-awareness and ruthless self-inquiry.
Total honesty with your partner
Once you are aware of yourself, as described above, in being totally honest with your partner you need to share those feelings, emotions, needs, wants, likes and dislikes, unresolved issues, past hurt and disappointments with your partner. The reason why we are not always totally honest with our selves and with our partner is because we fear the consequences: emotional pain, disapproval, disagreement, conflict or abandonment. Even though these fear are valid and significant, the journey to processing and releasing any unpleasant emotions or situation starts by acknowledging them first.
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